A lot of guys are always asking me for tips on talking to women. Basically asking me what to say to women. It’s tough for me to do that because it’s usually based on the situation. Meaning, I really don’t know what I’m going to say before I actually say it. I freestyle my conversation and that’s something that you have to learn how to do. That gives me a certain level of confidence that women can feel when they talk to me. I don’t want you guys not knowing what to say anymore. Again, having good conversation is very rare right now. I’ve been talking about this for the longest but I never gave any tips. Today is your lucky day. Before I forget, after you soak all of this good game in, use it wisely. A lot of you LOVE to start cupcaking when you get an inch of cooperation. Don’t show up to her house with your guitar and Boyz II Men CD. But I digress on that. Ok let me get into some game. Here are a few conversation tips.
1. Practice Makes Perfect- How else are you going to improve your conversation skills? You can’t have a conversation with yourself (relax crazy). You MUST go out and actually talk to women. You can’t be afraid to go out and meet women. If you’re still stuck on that scared shit, its time you start to value yourself as a man. Man up! You can go to the bars, clubs, coffee shops, mall, and supermarket. It really doesn’t matter. Just go out and talk to women.
2. Mistakes Equal Success- Wait, what? Yes, I said that! Don’t get too caught up on thinking of the perfect thing to say. It’s all about going with the flow. I’ve been in conversations with women and I completely went blank. I was really stuck. I didn’t let that stop me though. I used this to my advantage and said, “Damn you see what you’re doing to me. You have me forgetting shit.” You can always use everything to your advantage.
3. Pay Attention To Details- This is very important to improving your conversation skills. No detail is too small. You will focus on anything and everything. Focusing on her is going to take away any insecurity you may have. Most of you focus on your problems and it kills your game. Your hair, shoes, clothes, car, etc. It’s time to charge this to the game. Thinking like this limits your confidence. Remember, you don’t get confidence from material possessions. That’s fake confidence. Confidence comes from your knowledge. Knowledge is something no one can ever take away from you. Another reason to focus on her would be to build trust (sound familiar?) Her body language, shoes, clothes, hair, nails, makeup, jewelry. All of this is going to help you build conversation. You can even compliment her the elite way. “You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders.” “I love your look. You have a playful innocence about you.” This doesn’t make you look like your brown-nosing. Women don’t like men who are sucking up to them. Keep the “you have a fat ass” comments to yourself.
4. Keep The Pace- This is VERY important. This hurts a lot of guys when talking to women. You don’t know how to keep the pace. Meaning, if you are getting good cooperation, you need to speed everything up. This is when it’s ok to jump around from topic to topic. On the flip side, if you are not getting good cooperation, you need to slow the game down. Every guy has talked to a woman who has given him one word answers. You don’t have to freak out and think she wants nothing to do with you. Some women take a little longer to warm-up than others. Give it a few minutes before you charge the situation to the game. Notice I said A FEW MINUTES. I don’t want to see you hanging around her for hours and it’s clear she wants nothing to do with you. No stalkers! Just make sure you guys are on the same page.
Use these tips right now. Go out and start talking to women. Until we meet again…