This post was inspired by the homie blackmenuncesored. Click the link and follow his blog. The other day he wrote a post talking about the difficulties with women meeting up for dates. Certain women who are showing you obvious interest but not trying to meet up with you. I get emails and meet a lot of men in this same situation. Here’s the thing guys, you MUST know the difference between women wanting to take it slow, and women who are just wasting time. I’ve always advocating closing the deal and putting your bid in EARLY! Especially in the summer months. The summer theme is about closing the deal and not wasting time with certain women. Of course some of you take shit way too far, go overboard with Twimping and being super thirsty. You don’t have to do all of that. I think the problem with a lot of guys is that you believe everything women tell you. You take everything women say and do for face value. You have to understand the hustle some women are running on you guys. Something true to the game is going to happen to you everyday. You just need to have your third eye open to catch these things. That’s what I’m here to help you guys with. Let me give you a few tips on when taking it slow is actually cool in the game.
1. She Just Wants To Get To Know You Better- This is probably the most common reason why women say they want to take it slow. Sometimes it’s really just that simple. She wants to get to know you better before you take it to the next level. When it’s presented this way, I have nothing but respect for the female. I say the exact same thing when women try to get me to buy them shit. “Look I want to get to know you better before I buy you anything. I don’t do things like that for women I don’t know.” The respect goes both ways on that. If a woman says that to you, you should respect that.
2. She Just Got Out Of A Marriage- If a woman says she wants to take it slow while she waits for her divorce to be final, that’s cool in the game. Some women don’t want to be married and messing with you because that could be considered cheating. It can also become this big ordeal. Men are more bitchmade than EVER! You don’t want some simp ex husband trying to bust through your windows while you’re enjoying some alone time. Not mackish guys. I know that sounds extreme, but this is where the game can save your life.
3. She Wants To Be Careful About Who She Brings Her Kids Around- I know a lot of you have heard women say this before. I always think back to the three strike post with the guy that wasn’t allowed to come over to the girl’s house because of her kids but she wanted him to help out financially. It’s obvious she was trying to put this guy in a trick bag. Sometimes it is really sincere though. I do think it’s ok to date women with kids (shocking I know). The woman was in a relationship or had kids with a guy she thought was going to be around long-term. You can make that work if she’s coming at you talking right. It’s perfectly fine to respect certain boundaries. Wanting to take it slow for the kids is understandable. If you find yourself in this situation, roll with it. What you should NOT be doing is dating a hoodrat with a gang of kids. You guys already know how I feel about hoodrats.
4. Intimacy progresses- I know you guys remember Little Mariah. She was a 26-year-old virgin I met online back in my prospect days (RIP). I tried to close the deal a few times and it wasn’t happening. My third eye told me something wasn’t right. She confessed to me that she was a virgin. I was faced with a decision. I decided to continue seeing her because the intimacy between us gradually progressed. It started with kissing, then hand jobs, then finger action, then her putting the lip stick on the magic stick and finally I went ahead and beat it up. I closed that deal in a few dates compared to the other guys she dated for months and even years. What made me different? Again, something true to the game happens to you everyday. I went ahead and took control. Plus, the progression made the wait worth it and the sexual tension was strong.
5. She’s Trying To Focus On School Or Career- A lot of times when a female tells you she’s busy, it’s because she is busy with the next dude. I’ve always told you guys to think this way so I take full responsibility for that. Sometimes though, she really is focusing on school or her career. If she has a legitimate project she is focused on that’s a good reason for her to want to take it slow. Also, you only want to date women who are bringing more than sex and looks to the table. You should always respect a woman about her paper. Sometimes a girl is in a situation where she doesn’t want any distraction. You want to just make sure her actions match up to what she’s telling you. Being involved with someone new can stop your focus. Don’t trip if she wants to take it slow to focus on some paper.
Now on the flip side, you have to know when to charge her to the game because she is just wasting your time. That’s a topic for another day.