In the past, I have written about standards when dealing with women. Click here and here. I did mention lowering your standards to improve with women. I had no idea you guys would take it to another level. The emails started coming in and they all looked very familiar: “Reema, I’m dealing with this girl and we are having a lot of problems. She’s lying to me, cheating on me, and staying out all crazy hours of the night. She is driving me CRAZY!” After chopping up good game with these guys, they sent pictures of the women. The majority of these women were two’s and strong threes. That shit pissed me off. You don’t go through all that for an extra average female. Some of them were not ugly but, they were just extra average. They haven’t been upgraded. These women stay extra average because a lot of you guys don’t have it in you to upgrade a woman. We currently live in a thirsty, trickin and cucpcaking dude environment. This means, they’re a lot of guys out there giving women props for nothing. This is why we have celebrities who are famous for nothing (Jersey Shore, Kardashians). Remember, readers of the chronicles strive to be different. I want you guys to start requiring more from the women you deal with. You have to STOP cupcaking with threes and fours. Put the guitar and roses down. The crazy thing is that these women know that they’re extra average. But, when they see a cupcaking guy with his heart on his sleeve, they start to act brand new. It is even worse on facebook and twitter. You guys know what I’m talking about. These same women put up pictures and you guys go crazy. You start liking the picture five times. Crazy comments start flowing in: “So Hot”, “Wow Sexy”, “Perfection”, “Yup U Bad”, “Girl you fine as wine”. STOP co-signing average shit. You see pictures with these average women with a grey goose bottle, and you guys are back with more extras. “Damn Girl YOU Ballin”, “You doing it BIG!” CUT that shit out. That’s not ballin. I have to blame the guys for this. I can get on the women, but it’s mostly on the guys. A lot of guys are just not receptive to game. Game is NOT all about getting laid. It’s a mindset, a lifestyle. It’s about holding yourself to a higher standard. Average standards are not a good look. As a man, you must start thinking extraordinary. You want to make sure you have an original swag. A swag that stands on its own. You do not want to be on some thirsty scavenger shit. Thirsty dudes usually travel in packs and they feed off each others thirstiness. You want no part of that. If your swag is right, you can upgrade a chick with no issues. That is essentially the mans job. Protect and upgrade his woman. Extra average women think I’m bougy. Which I am, to them. I have no problem upgrading a female if she comes at me correctly. They know I won’t fuck with them otherwise. This is why I hear, “You look like you ONLY date white women” (far from the truth). I hear that from different races of women. And my black guys are extra cupcaking when dealing with an extra average white woman. You guys think you hit gold. Give all that shit up guys. Start looking for women that are doing something with themselves. Stay away from hood rats. Stay away from women that frequent all-star weekends and spring break events. Stay away from women who look up to the Jersey Shore girls or, the women on the show Basketball Wives. Charge these women to the game. It will be the best thing you have ever done. You guys are not supposed to be going through all this headache and heartache for these lackluster women. You can utilize the same energy and start going after attractive quality women. The “dimes”, as I like to call them. Step your standards up. If you step it up, the women will.