Getting The Good Girls Into Bed

 
The other day I was out with Mizzle, and we were talking this kid who told us he has been dating this girl for 9 MONTHS and he still hasn’t slept with her. WAIT, WHAT? That’s exactly what we said. He went on to tells us that he’s tried everything and she still won’t sleep with him. She told him she “needed more time” and that she was a virgin. HAHAHAHAHA guys are so fucken clueless when it comes to women. It’s pretty obvious that this kid was doing some serious cupcaking to try to finally have sex with her. She will NEVER have some sex with him. She never had any intention of sleeping with him. For nine months he has ben chasing this girl around. His neediness was written on his forehead. If I could see it after 10 minutes of speaking with him, then I know she realized it the minute she gave him her phone number and he texted/called her 30 times. This post is for him. Let’s talk about getting the good girls into bed. When you read this blog you probably get the idea that I’m this wild asshole with women, when it actually only accounts for how I am 5-10% of the time. Am I an asshole? Yes. But I’d say that it accounts for a small percentage of my interactions with women. Today, I’d like to focus on dealing with women that aren’t very aggressive. The “lady” or “good girl” types. I wanna go over how to eventually end up in bed with them. When you read a lot of pick-up stuff, you get the idea that you have to be energetic, always performing, etc. What I don’t think many PUA’s (pick up artist) get, is that once you have the girl alone or locked into your social group, you need to calm down if you ever wanna have sex with her. As soon as you two are alone or on a date or whatever, you need to focus on calming her and keeping her that way. You do this by just talking in a lower tone of voice, using soft movements, and just coming off as a very relaxed guy. Women always tell me that I have a very calming effect on them. Women absolutely have to be relaxed before they feel comfortable having sex with you. If they feel uneasy about you, or if they’re not in a sexual mood, they will not have sex with you. Many guys always wonder what to talk about with women. Some think that they need to show vulnerability, some think that they need to keep telling stories and some think that they need to run routines. None of those are necessarily wrong, but I find that the best thing any guy can do, is keep his mouth shut about himself, focus on the girl, and keep the conversation on something that she feels good about. The reason why I don’t like focusing on routines, vulnerabilities, and stories, is because they’re too chancy. If you keep the conversation focused on her, and on a topic she feels good about, there is very little chance of a screw up or anything backfiring. With the “good girls”, you need to show them that you are a patient guy. With this one girl, I would drive her home and each time we got closer to her house, she would let me drop her off before we got in front of her house. I never pushed anything and I ended up being the first guy she invited back to her place and eventually in her bed. I’m not forceful, and I am just very gentle when dealing with women that like to move slow. Too many guys try to invite themselves places, get grabby, and force the whole sex issue. When a gentleman does actually come along, it’s like a breath of fresh air. It sends women the signal that they can trust you, and they eventually will place themselves in a position to let sex happen. What about last-minute resistance? Sometimes, you’ll finally get the chance to have sex with one of these girls, and for whatever reason, they’ll stop you. When you get real pushy in these situations, women start to believe that you weren’t the gentle guy that they thought you were, and they begin to have second thoughts about you. The best thing you can do in this situation is just back off. To women, it lets them know that you are the real deal, and in almost every case, they’ll reinitiate and have sex with you.
 
Afterthought:
DON’T use this post as an excuse to be a pussy. You still need to lead women, you still need to escalate forward and be upfront when dealing with a manipulative woman. There are women that just need a man to be gentle and take things slow and then there are manipulators. If a girl is grabbing your dick, or indicated that you were going to have sex and then backs out, then you need to call her out on her bullshit and if a girl asks you why you stopped or asks if you like her after she stops you, then you need to be upfront. There are just certain girls that need men to be gentle and patient with them. This post is focused towards them and not the manipulators.
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About The Reemachronicles

This blog is about the great NY dating scene. My focus will be on improving your overall greatness, the online dating game, some fashion tips and just other random thoughts helping guys get better with women. I will even give you updates on the current women in my life. Get on for the crazy ride that is my life.
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