I don’t know how this started but there is this huge notion in the seduction community (I hate that word) that if you’re going to get physical with a woman it should be in the most inconspicuous way possible. Well, you need to charge that shit to the game. Whoever said that is wrong, wrong, and wrong some more. It is an incredibly bad piece of advice. Do you know what happens when you are inconspicuous when you are attempting to make physical contact with women? It makes you look like a total fucken creeper. One of the things women say about some of the PUA (pick up artist) guys were that the way that they were touching them was totally creepy and weird. Why? Because it makes it look like you are trying to sneak in physical contact like some creepy guy that gets absolutely no physical contact with women, so he has to try to sneak it in when he can. It also makes it look like you have a total lack of confidence. If a woman liked you before you approached her, the only thing that trying to sneak in physical contact is going to do, is show her that you have absolutely no confidence in yourself (lame or simp shit), and she’s going to lose a lot of respect for you. There is a reason why pop culture makes fun of the guy that tries to sneak his arm around a girl. It’s because it is extremely unattractive. Now some of you may try to argue that abrupt physical contact scares women away. If you have never touched a girl and you just try to jump in for a kiss, then yes, it’s going to scare her away. However, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be obvious when you touch her. Women aren’t turned off by the gradual build-up to a kiss, they’re turned off by the gradual build-up to a kiss when you tried to be sneaky about it and didn’t OPENLY establish some sort of physical contact beforehand. When you’re with a girl, don’t be afraid to just hold your hand out and let her make the decision to accept it. Don’t be afraid to tell her to scoot closer to you and don’t be afraid to look her in the eye and pull her in. All of these are very open ways to make physical contact and can lead up to a kiss. The difference is that you aren’t doing it in a creepy way by trying to sneak it in, and you are showing that you are confident and not afraid to put out there that yes, you are touching her.
Get that pick up artist shit out of your head. Stop trying to be some robot that’s always thinking of the perfect line or perfect way to touch a girl. This will not make you seem authentic to women.