Right now we’re living in an age of overconfident women who believe the best way to find their “Prince Charming” is to play the field for a decade or three until deciding that they’re on the appearance downswing. Since you don’t want to be chosen as their end game provider man (and if you do you’re 1000% doing something wrong). This means you’ll have to put up with a lot of anti-social behavior and flaking in order to get casual sex. The sad fact is that no matter how tight your game is, how many dozens of girls you’ve fucked, women who are lower quality than what you’ve had before will try to treat you like crap. The quickest path to unhappiness with dating is to hope that a girl will please you, treat you with respect, or even show up on dates. I do think it’s rude for a girl to treat you poorly when you haven’t done the same to her, she is free to act in any way she wishes. She has the choice to send a last-minute cancellation text or to not pay attention when you’re telling a story that means a lot to you. After putting out your best game, her behavior is not something you can control. You can control how you deal with women. You can control who you ask out on dates. You can control who you reward with attention. You can control whether to contact her again after sex. You also can control how to plan dates so that things will still work out in your favor even if she disappoints you. This means you should always have a backup plan so that when a girl cancels, you’ll have an alternative that is as good as going out with her. I put together a list that I will now start to use.
1. Plan dates on nights where I’ve decided that I’m going out no matter what, whether she comes through or not. My new first date night has become Sunday. I recently found a bar that has all you can drink specials and free pool on Sundays. It’s no big deal if she flakes because I will still have a good time flirting with women. I will not schedule a date on days where there is nothing going on. If she flakes on my ass, that means I’m in danger of getting stuck at home, watching
porn sportscenter. The worst thing you can do is wait for her send a confirmation text to know if you should hop in the shower and start getting ready. Don’t give her that power.
2. Tell her to meet you in a location that is close to another good spot you can bounce to. My new Sunday place is walking distance to two other bars. Many times a girl will take you for granted and put no effort in helping with the date conversation. Or she’ll nurse her beer saying she wants to “take it easy tonight.” If after one drink she has not performed to a standard that you would’ve expected based on your original meeting or online interactions, wish her a good night and ditch her. You’ll already know where to go.
3. Take a book. Wait, What? I know what you’re thinking but hear me out. If she’s acting stupid then you can take out a book and start reading. She can drink alone or pretend like she has to catch up on her text messaging. The absolute worst that can happen on a date night is that I have a couple of beers and read a good book. You want to be improving your overall greatness anyway. Reading a good book will only help you get there. It should get to the point where your plan B is decent enough that you actually don’t mind when a girl flakes on you. The strange thing is that the better backup plan you have, the less likely you’ll get flaked on. It’s almost like girls can feel that your night is not hinging on whether she makes an appearance or not. Don’t be surprised if a girl flaking on you sets the wheels in motion for you to meet a girl that’s even better. These days when a girl flakes, she’s doing you a favor.
Stick to these three rules and you will have much better results. This is part of adapting the I don’t give a fuck attitude. Again, this is why having options is super important. It’s all about having higher standards for yourself. Your value should always been higher than hers.