Why He WON’T Commit To A Relationship or Marriage- Game For Women

I was reading two of my favorite blogs and they were both talking about marriage and relationships. Before you continue reading anymore of this, you need to go read Kenny and Serenity‘s blogs about these topics. I already told you guys that you’re CRAZY if you are not following these two blogs so I shouldn’t have to tell you again :). I have nothing against marriage or being in a serious relationship. I would have to be with someone for at least two years before I thought about marriage and a pre-nup would 1000% need to be signed. My parents would probably disown me if I didn’t. Even though I don’t work in any part of the family business (I like to make my own money), that is something I have to fall back on. But I digress; you guys don’t want to hear about some black kid that has his family money to fall back on haha. Ok, time to chop up game. I’ve been receiving emails from different women asking the same question. “Why don’t men want to commit?” This is a great question. First off, the word commit has a negative association. The word commit means you’re obligated to do something you really don’t want to do. For example, “I don’t want to go to this event, but I already committed to it.” Even in society when you hear the word commit, something bad happened. “You committed a murder”, “You committed a robbery”, “You will be committed to the psych ward.” Masculine energy is all about freedom, exploration. When a man feels like he is obligated to commit, it usually doesn’t work. A lot of women try to entrap men into marriage or a relationship. Then you get upset when he is not good to you. The best relationships are when the man has OPTIONS and he chooses to be with you. I have a list of a few reasons why men don’t want to commit to a relationship or marriage. Let’s break them down.

1. Access To Easy Sex- This is one of the biggest reasons men don’t want to commit to a relationship or marriage. See back in the day when a woman wanted a relationship, she would dangle sex in front of you. Back then the women carried themselves a certain way (some women still do). Sex wasn’t as easy as it is now. Women definitely brought other things to the table besides sex. WOW, the game has changed. You have SO MANY easy women out here and we have such a tricking culture, that sex has been devalued. You use to have to be able to let your game work for you to get sex. If you weren’t true to the game, you were not going to get any women. Now, sex is easily accessible for a guy with tricks bones in his body. A lot of marriages are based this way. Some women will say, “Marry me and give me a house, car and family. In return, I will give you unlimited sex.” Tricks are not going for that nowadays. Why spend all that money when you can spend $40 for sex at a strip club, or some back alley. Women have brought the price of sex down so low that men rather just go the tricking route if sex is the only incentive.

2. No Pressure For Men To Get Married- For women, you guys have social pressure to get married. A lot of women are told something is wrong with them if they are not married by a certain time. The Cat Lady Syndrome is something none of you want to hear. This does not happen to men. Women like maturity in a man. Unfortunately that does not work for women. As men, we can put off marriage until 45 and still get a dime. You see this all the time. A woman can do the same if her game is crisp. Generally speaking it is easier for a man to get married when he’s older and not have to deal with social pressure.

3. Kids- A lot of women are bringing kids from the old relationship to the new one. This is not necessarily a bad thing. This is something you will want to discuss with the guy before you even start dating. Don’t run away from the kid’s discussion. I see women avoid the situation all the time. “I don’t need another father for my baby.” “You have to date me for a few months before I even bring my son around, etc”. How many of you ladies have said that? Its time to charge that thinking to the game. You have to remember that one of the incentives for men to get married is to have a family. If you’re already bringing a family to the table, it could be an issue. Especially for some of you that are 21 or 22 and going on your second kid. By the time you are ready to settle down, those kids are grown. Now we have to deal with you and the mindset of your kid/kids. We don’t know how you raised them either. That could be overwhelming. Again, bringing kids in to a new relationship is not a bad thing. Just get it out-of-the-way. I know in some situations the woman got married and had a couple of kids. She is well-rounded and the kids are well-rounded. That’s a good thing.

4. Financial Reasons- This is a BIG reason for men not to commit to marriage. Women if you are dealing with a man of means, he is going to look at marriage as an investment. The legal system is jerking guys right now. Look at Tiger and Kobe. Yes they were stupid to not sign pre-nups. Pre-nup or not, those women do NOT deserve a big chunk of money. Even on a much smaller scale men are not getting a fair shake at child support settlements and alimony settlements. You guys can not ignore this and you can’t expect men to ignore this either. I will love you forever and ever does sound good but at the end of the day, the man is usually stuck with the bill. After seeing this, a lot of men are charging marriage talk to the game. When a man tells you he doesn’t want to commit because his money isn’t right, he is probably telling the truth.

5. You Bring Nothing To The Table- You can’t bring nothing to the table and expect to sit at the table. It just doesn’t work that way. I know this is a tough pill to swallow. I have to keep it 100 with my ladies. A lot of you just don’t bring anything to the table to make a man want to commit to you. You don’t have anything going on for you that will make him charge his other women to the game. I know a lot of you THINK you have it going on but you really don’t. I know thirsty ass dudes, facebook and twitter are a few reasons for this but, its 2012 and you must take responsibility in the game. Some of you know that you’re extra average  and that’s cool in the game. If you are working on upgrading your overall greatness, you will find a man who will make you wifey. Let’s take cooking for example. A lot of women don’t cook anymore and the few that do, you make it seem like a luxury. You make some eggs and toast and now you think you’re an Iron Chef. A lot of you don’t want to clean. You make excuses for doing basic things. “I’m working all day and I’m tired!” You have to make sacrifices in life. So what that you’re tied. Shit I’m tired of takeout haha. Seriously, you have to start bringing something to the table. Don’t be that woman who dates guys with nothing so you don’t have to bring anything to the table. Sooner or later he is going to get back on his feet and we already know what is going to happen. You must be a woman of value. Just bringing sex to the table is not the business anymore. Guys will just hit it and keep you around as a jump-off. Don’t be a jump-off. Get your mind right and everything will fall into place. Men are not dumb (some at least). We know a good woman when we meet one. We know a woman of value when we meet one. You have to give us that. Give men incentives to want to wife you up. You are going to have to start being honest with yourself. Get your look right, your attitude right and get your game right. I guarantee you will have men trying to wife you up.

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23 Responses to Why He WON’T Commit To A Relationship or Marriage- Game For Women

  1. Sunshine says:

    I like this especially number one. What do you suggest women do if they feel this is an issue in their relationship? Just withhold sex, or is there nothing we can do?

    • I suggest you just bring more to the table beside sex. Make sure he is ugrading you. Don’t be banging bum dudes. Number 5 is the key to this post. Get your look right, attitude right and game right and you will have no issues.

  2. Socialkenny says:

    Fine tips for the ladies.

    Good point too with comparing women them and now.

    • Its crazy today! A lot of women don’t want to do anything. Then complain that they can’t get a man. They say things like, “you’re a little boy in a mans body”, “you have commitment phobia”. No actually you’re just not bringing anything to the table.

  3. serenityluv1 says:

    I’m laughing so hard at committing murder…WOW! LOL

  4. serenityluv1 says:

    A lot of women think the key to getting a ring is between their legs or in the walls of their jaws! That does not get a man much less keep one!

  5. serenityluv1 says:

    As a hard working woman I wouldn’t have a problem with a pre-nup~
    To me marriage is like a partnership…and you compliment each other and with that being said I agree you need to bring something to the table other than your salty ass…I’m just sayin…

    Great Post!

  6. roxem says:

    Damnit… so I DO need to learn how to cook… finally…??

  7. offdadome says:

    nice post, all very valid points, just yesterday I talked about contemplating the life of a cat lady lol well in my case, dog lady!!!

  8. roxem says:

    Ok Reema.. I know its only been a few weeks but we need a new game for women post!!! I’m fuckn addicted to this shit!!!!

    pleeeeaaaaaase =)

  9. SeriousTony says:

    there are many of us serious down to earth men that can commit, but it is much of the women today that just can’t.

  10. I agree with that. It’s just about looking in the correct places to meet someone. You have to switch things up. Go to different places

  11. Damien says:

    ::::Why Men Increasingly Avoid Marriage:::::::

    Across the internet, women have begun making statements such as:

    Why are men avoiding marriage?
    Why do guys avoid commitment?

    Being single sucks.

    A Carl Weisman study showed American men are increasingly avoiding marriage. In many other countries, like Italy, Spain, Australia and so on, Men fear getting involved in bad marriages with bad wives. This fear is partly driven by the Nazifeminist based anti-husband messages of women’s magazines, TV and writers.

    For example, look at those femminine Magazines, many claims their marriage survey shows moms are angry at their husbands “at surprising levels”. They state husbands “often don’t notice what needs to be done around the house or with the kids”.

    They also claim husbands have “more time to themselves” as compared with moms. Their survey stated 46% of moms get irate with their husbands once a week or more. Lisa Bain, executive editor of Parenting Magazine said “The truth is if you prick any one of us with a little pin, anger comes out”. Female writers of ABC News and the Associated Press discussed the survey and expressed outrage at husbands.

    However, the magazine’s survey completely ignored husbands. No husband was asked anything. His opinions were considered unimportant. His efforts at work were ignored and he was largely unappreciated by his wife, also this trend is the same when someone interview people in the streets, very few men and a lot of women.

    Another example: One stay at home mom participating in the survey stated she was angered at her husband (who worked 11 hour days) because he set aside some time one day a week to be an independent music producer – something he enjoyed. Another wife responding to the survey stated though her husband did 60% of the housework plus his job, she was angered she had to ask him to do housework.

    Single men wonder why is he doing 60% of the work plus his job. They think:

    Why should I get married if my opinions don’t matter?
    Why would I want to marry a woman who will be mad at me every week for the rest of my life because I don’t do things her way?
    Why is she my boss?

    It should also be noted none of the wives in the survey report stated they help their husband with house repairs. Additionally, Glen Sacks stated, according to the Bureau of Labor Statics, men’s time to themselves is a meaningless 1% higher than women’s.

    Another example: aMERICAN women’s magazine “Double X”, promotes books where wives cheat on their husbands. The book ‘Prospect Park West’ was promoted with the headline “Mommies Want to Have Sex, Just Not With Their Husbands”.

    The book ‘The Seven Year Itch’ was promoted with the question “is it still realistic to expect wives to remain faithful to their husbands?” Conversely Double X continuously criticizes cheating husbands. The feminist notion its acceptable for a wife to cheat but wrong for her husband to be unfaithful has also been promoted by the online women’s magazine Ivillage (though not all its writers agree with this mentality), female writers of the online magazine Askmen and, incredibly, Men’s Health Magazine. Additionally, female reporters of ABCNews & Good Morning America continuously criticize cheating husbands. They refuse to criticize cheating wives.

    Single men think:
    Why get married if its ok for my wife to cheat but I have to remain faithful?
    Why should I give up dating different women to be married to a cheating wife?
    Why should I accept abuse?

    Many husbands around the world have begun asking these same questions and have begun dumping their cheating wives in increasing numbers. This has given rise to websites such as “Stop Your Divorce in 4weeks” and “Cheatingways”. These sites seek to prevent husbands from divorcing their cheating wives. The 2nd site (owned by a woman) actually encourages wives to cheat on their husbands. It offers wives a wealth of tips on how to deceive and fraud their husband. The site apparently was not founded with this intent but, like most of the countries all over the world, drifted into an anti-husband mentality!

    Single men think:

    Since marriage means the exploitation of husbands then why the hell should I get married? Do they think I’m stupid?

    Lastly, in many countries (e.g: U.S.A, Spain, Italy and so on) divorce laws also cause men to fear marriage.

    The feminist judicial system often rules against husbands in divorce. Husband’s are usually ordered to pay large alimony / child support payments to the ex-wife. Some claim the child support payments contain hidden alimony. In many countries, these payments don’t decrease if the ex-wife’s income dramatically increases after the divorce or if she get another man/husband.

    Though some wives with high paying jobs have been ordered to pay alimony/child support to their ex-husbands, many judges are reluctant to apply divorce laws equally. Additionally, if the husband later loses his job & fails to continue child support payments, he will be jailed or punished severely!

    A husband may also face false accusations of sexual and child abuse during the divorce. In those countries with heavy feminist bureaucracy, the husband will have to prove his innocence while stay in prison.

    Some wives will interfere with the husband’s visitation rights to his children. In feminist oriented countries, the courts will do nothing to stop her. And paternity fraud remains legal.

    ::::::The divorce system is designed to trap men in bad marriages with bad wives.

    An increasing number of men in many countries are now reaching the conclusion that being a husband is not worth it. The better deal is to remain single and have a series of relationships with different women while pursuing hobbies and life goals.
    Additionally, a college educated single man can have a very good life.

    What if everything were reversed.

    What if only a husband’s perspective was important in marriage and cheating was only wrong for the wife?
    What if the family court system discriminated against wives?
    Would women want to become wives to the massive degree they do today?

    Doubtful.

    By nature, men and women are companions. By Nazifeminism, men and women are now adversaries.

    No word of lie, I withness men who was involved with women who would complain if they took the garbage out and put in the wrong trash can. She had two, and they both went out to the curb on Mondays, but if they put it in the can further from the door going outside, there was hell to pay.

    Still another would bitch at me for doing my own laundry…the wrong way…meaning “not the way I do my own”.

    Guys, you get married and you will always be wrong. Now I understand that these are smallish things over which to get upset, but if you get this kind of treatment for stupid and pointless shit, what kind of treatment can you expect with more important stuff?

    Marriage is voluntary slavery for any man. The only joy a wife has is complaining about everything you do, everything you say, and everything you believe. They may not all be ball-busting bull dykes, but they sure as hell think of you as nothing but a child needing her guidance; and a stupid one at that.

    Women wonder what happened to all the nice guys. When they say they want someone nice, they mean someone who never rebels, never disagrees, and only talks about what she wants to talk about. Don’t even think about considering yourself a self-realized human being. At best, you are an errant pet. Don’t believe me? Watch how they all spit venom amongst themselves when the men-folk are out of ear shot. It isn’t enough to merely be a decent if flawed man. You have to be “nice”.

    ::::Men’s reproductive rights? none!

    It doesn’t matter if it’s planned or not, NO MALE has any reproductive rights whatsoever.

    Meanwhile women have dozens of means of contraception, the right to abort WITHOUT the other parent’s consent, complete control over any male’s reproductive destiny, the right to simply dump babies they don’t want and more.

    It’s way past time women were required by law to acquire the father’s consent before proceding with any pregnancy. His involvement in the process should be both voluntary AND consensual.

    The only fact is that women have control over every part of the reproductive cycle – from pre-conception via contraceptives, to pregnancy via legalized abortions, and even post-birth via adoption and no penalized abandonment. A woman does not have to be a mother, if she so chooses.

    Now let’s look at what reproductive rights men have. They have none!

    If a woman gets pregnant, and can easily terminate it or give it away, she can choose to keep it so she can extract money from the man. Conversely, she can choose to kill the unborn baby, even if the man wants it.

    So I must disagree with statement that both parties should pay out of wedlock. Until men have equal reproductive rights (funny how women only want equality when it benefits them exclusively), all responsibilities should be solely placed on the woman who chooses to become a parent when she can opt out of it at any time.

    Marriage is the biggest source of depression and soul-crushing malaise for men in many countries. Nothing else even comes close.

    It is no wonder that the marriage rate is dropping fast everywhere, and that 40% of people say “marriage is obsolete”. Data from the U.K. that has not been cherrypicked to favor marriage shows that men who don’t marry are happier then men in any kind of marriage; And men who never marry have less heart disease than married men now. The old saw about married men “living longer” has also been disproven, with newer, better data.

    :::: Divorce: Men are doomed, women wins the pot!

    The only certain way to avoid losing the house, children, money, cars, and mental and physical health is not married.

    Each strategy, action plan and various precautions that you may take before get married, do not solve two major problems related to marriage in a feminist society like ours.

    The first of these two main problems arises when you get married: your wife from that moment, takes the knife by the handle.

    The second problem is that in case of separation, in most cases is the man to lose everythings.

    Regarding the first problem, your girlfriend just became “wife” is automatically invested by State laws with a great new power that earlier, during the normal relationship, did not have.

    It ‘s the power of using blackmail as a weapon in this Feminist State society, that is threatening the separation with everything that goes with it (the second problem).

    All the grains of the first problem can manifest itself in countless ways. An example: you have children, you want to send them to private school, your wife, to public school. Discuss, argue, and do not come to a compromise. In the evening, or night, your wife decides to revenge about you in a snake way: she doesn’t make love with you, for days, weeks, sometimes even for mouths.

    This weapon, we may name it “sexual blackmail”, she had it also before marriage, but it was fair, since you could oppose the other weapons:

    1) I leave you,
    2) I go with another woman better than you,
    3) I go to prostitutes,

    etc.etc.

    All these weapons, balancing the relactionship between men and women, now doesn’t works anymore!, well, you still have them but you can potentially backfire yourself!

    if you leave it, go with another, go to prostitutes or else your wife could use his new femminist State laws power, which did not had before, and invoke the rules (female), asking for the separation and punish you with everything that goes with it.

    During the marriage your wife can do the good and the bad weather, i doesn’t matter how much “land” you have in a marriage, keep in mind that she always rule on the entire playing field, and this one of those situations where the only way to don’t lose, is not to play.

    In other words, will you board a plane if you already knows that the chances it may crash is above 70%?? Doubtful.

    Do not get married.. We can not and should not entrust our fate to the only “good heart” of the woman you’re set, since for men are missing a number of safeguards that make the marriage the equivalent of Russian roulette (loaded with five bullets..)

    Once you become aware of this, we must consider the underlying problems, and before you ask “is convenient for me to get married?” you Would be better to ask yourself “why I want to get marry?”.

    For believers, this needs may arise to make the sacrament of marriage. But let me tell you.. does this sacrament make sense in a corrupted society, where the marriage seems to have become an excuse to have joy in the church for a day, have a good time for a week going “honeymoon in the Maldives”, only to dissolve this “sacred link “when you wife decide it’s time to” break free from the chains of marriage (but not from your bank account)?

    Is this or not, for believers, a serious insult to the sacrament of marriage?

    Just as in a church, used for black prayers and the adoration of the devil should not celebrate prayers, so in a society corrupted by feminist cancer, a church should not be used to clean the traditions that we have only in the outer shell, but within inside is corrupted and decaying.

    For non-believers, however, the issue is much simpler, and decide not to marry takes a sense of independence from the increasingly oppressive rule from this NAZIFEMMINIST State laws against men in many countries!

    Let me ask you, Why give the State more freedom to enter right into our bedrooms, giving women more options to punish men when she decide that this is right? why let them be the judges of men sentimental/economical life?

    This power, which the NAZIFEMMINIST State laws has used and continues to use to transfer money from men’s wallets in women’s pockets, and to widen the freedom of all proportion to the detriment of women than men, now sees its greatest expression in the Marriage!

    The only solution, TODAY, is: AVOID MARRIAGE.

    If you want to live the experience of married life, you can always experiment with cohabitation, longer or shorter, always provided that they are not made more insidious and misleading laws to equate cohabitation with marriage! talk straight to your partner that you are not ready for marriage and eventually you’ll never be… and if they start to argue with you that you are selfish and you should grow up and get your responsabilities, it means that you should be ready to be enslaved to what they thing is best for you.. so ditch them as soon as you can! if you don’t want to be another bancomat/ATM men with the word “welcome” tatooed in your shoulders, just to remember that you become a new Nazifeminist’s slave!

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